Tuesday, February 3, 2009

To the Anonymous Commenter...

"I have to say that it sounds like hormones talking. If you've tried that long to get pregnant, I would think you would be happy to get those comments, especially the ones noticing how good you look. Granted, you may want to discuss other things besides this pregnancy, if you think about it - this may be the only one you ever get. I'd enjoy it all you can." - Anonymous

I have to say that I took this a little negative. You do not walk in my shoes...you have never walked in my shoes. Do not for one minute tell me how I should feel about the comments being made to me. Yes, I've wanted to be pregnant for a very long time. But I've never said, I want people to be fake and ask me how I'm doing when they couldn't care less about the answer. I never said I wanted people to stare at my belly and touch my belly without invitation. I never said I wanted people to point out the fact that I'm showing. I know all these things come with being pregnant...but it doesn't mean that I welcome it, or that it doesn't get tiring. I know all too well that this could be the only pregnancy I ever experience. As an infertile couple, we think about this EVERY SINGLE DAY. I don't need an anonymous commenter to remind me of that. This is MY blog, and if I choose to rant about comments I've gotten, I will do so. And since I'm turning off anonymous commenting, I will do so without fear of someone ridiculing me for it.

11 comments:

Jen said...

It is a little hard to get bigger and have people point it out. Although, my first thought was that you were lucky that the comments seemed so polite! haha! People were always telling me how HUGE I was!

Say what you want to say, it's your blog! Just because you had to work for your pregnancy doesn't mean that you have to piss sunshine and rainbows the entire time.

Fertilized said...

Amy, I am so sorry

seussgirl said...

Oh, I can empathize. I think I was more annoyed by people commenting on or asking about my pregnancy than I was with anything physically about the pregnancy! I was most annoyed by people constantly asking "how I was feeling" - when they were trying to find out if I was having morning sickness. Um, hello? If I am puking every morning, do you REALLY want to know that?

Another Julia said...

No matter how long it takes you to get pregnant, or how difficult it is to get there, sometimes the extra attention is just annoying. I remember thinking that I would murder the next person who asked "Now, when are you due again?".

Ignore "anonymous" and the asinine comments about your future pregnancy potential. May the fleas of a thousand camels find his/her tent! :)

Congratulations on landing smack dab into your third trimester!

Jen said...

I always wanted to ask people "remember when you used to talk to me about OTHER SUBJECTS?" I totally get your point. I got so sick of feeling like people saw me as nothing but a pod.

Chelle said...

:0 My mouth fell open at the annonymous comment. It's YOUR blog! The nerve!

Jennifer said...

Remember sweetie, you cannot please everyone. Whether you say something good, bad or indifferent someone is going to have something to say. Don't let that affect you.

journey to junior(ette) said...

wow, that comment was uncalled for. this is your blog, and if people don't like what you are saying they should just go away quietly and not play that pregnancy guilt trip.

and saying that this may be the only pregnancy you "ever get." wow. that is probably the most insulting thing about the post.

ANYWAY - there are lots of emotional minefields that come with being pregnant, period...let alone being pregnant after IF. fertile women complain about this stuff ALL OF THE TIME. just because we went through IF does not negate how tough some of the things about pregnancy can be. we are mere mortals, after all.

KimboSue said...

HOLY SHIT! The nerve of some people! It is YOUR blog, therefore contains YOUR thoughts about YOUR feelings. Tell them to shut the fuck up already. OMG.

I am also getting tired of the comments, suggestions, and questions. However, I also know that this may be the only pregnancy I ever experience so I am taking it all in. I have decided to purchase one of these t-shirts to help clarify all the answers and to keep unwanted hands off my belly. http://t-shirts.cafepress.com/item/pregnant-surprise-due-april-b-maternity-tshirt/165267344 Let me know your size and birth month and I'll pick you one up too!

familyoftwo98 said...

Ah the annonymous comment who knows they are ignorant and can't say who they are.

Fertile or not anyones first pregnancy could be their last, but that doesn't meant they relish every moment of it. I hate to be "touched" and I am not pregnant...does that mean I don't relish being alive?

Not everyone needs to be a Polly Anna...even if they had to struggle to obtain their greatest desire!

MoDLin said...

Jeeze, it's your blog!

I so don't get the thing where people feel they have the right to touch you because you're pregnant. (I mean, do people touch men's heads because they're bald?) What's up with that?