Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Upset

I don't know if it's the pregnancy hormones or what, but I'm really upset right now. See, today is DH's mom's birthday. We had bought a card for her and I had it on the table and went to the bathroom. When I came out the card was sealed. I asked my DH if he signed my name on the card and he said NO! That she wasn't my mother...and that I don't put his name on my parent's birthday cards. I told him that I always did....he's even signed most of them himself. I told him I couldn't believe that he wouldn't have put my name on the card! We've been married 3 years! The worst part was as I was walking away, visibly upset, he says, "I didn't think it was important!". Of course, I took that as I'm not important enough to have the privilege of signing HIS moms birthday card. I went upstairs, and I guess he steamed the envelope open because he brought the card up for me to sign. He had signed the card "Love your son, C". How was I supposed to sign that? So I just wrote my name and gave him back the damn card. I guess what I'm really upset about is how he continues to think in terms of "I, MY, MINE" instead of "WE and OURS" I know it's a petty thing to be crying over, but I'm really upset about it. Plus the fact that he saw I was crying and didn't bother to say anything. Just left for work. Am I overreacting to the card incident? Or would you be upset too?

7 comments:

Fertilized said...

i am so sorry!

KimboSue said...

You + Me = We and that started at "till death do us part." There is no reason why, especially after 3 years of marriage, that he should still consider giving his mom things from "son" only. That is ludicrous. I would be upset too.

Tricia said...

I don't think you are over reacting. I think that stinks. I get annoyed when DH wants to sign his own name or wants me to sign my own name. I don't see the point. But, to not have your name on the card at all. That would really annoy me.
Hang in there. Maybe he will say something when he gets home from work?

Jen said...

Argh! I hate fights. I'm sure it will blow over soon.

tryingtoconceive said...

I'm so sorry. I would be upset, too.

Delenn said...

I think its okay to be upset. I think he was being a typical man, and really did not realize what it meant to you.

Denise said...

I would totally be upset. I've made such a big deal out of this type of stuff in the past that anytime I slip up and say something in front of DH about "my house" or "my family," he pointedly corrects me to say "our house" or "our family."