tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995015639539526957.post4074217865701175115..comments2023-11-05T05:32:06.718-06:00Comments on Justamere IVF: Lost interestAmyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14859972086411293652noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995015639539526957.post-43916261376311324982011-09-17T21:39:53.958-05:002011-09-17T21:39:53.958-05:00Here, here. IF does SO much crap to us -- one of t...Here, here. IF does SO much crap to us -- one of the biggies is taking away the "innocence" of sex. I wish I had the answer -- I appreciate your honesty, though-as so many of us have this issue.JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18027548058304720360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995015639539526957.post-1552487403195164922011-09-16T09:05:16.408-05:002011-09-16T09:05:16.408-05:00Absolutely hear you! It became less about pleasur...Absolutely hear you! It became less about pleasure and enjoying the time with your spouse than about making a baby...and that is daunting.<br /><br />I've been there too...and frankly just going through the motions sometimes "got me where I needed to be" but it wasn't an over night process, nor was it always something I wanted to do...<br /><br />Also remember, being intimate isn't just about intercourse...you can be intimate and still have a good time with the "less is more" theory.<br /><br />*SOrry if that was too much*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995015639539526957.post-35431553242487777412011-09-13T21:30:13.756-05:002011-09-13T21:30:13.756-05:00AMEN!! You're totally right about IF destroyi...AMEN!! You're totally right about IF destroying the sex. UGH! <br /><br />A few years ago, I was watching an Oprah episode where a couple was in the same situation...no sex. They talked about it and decided to challenge themselves - sex everyday for 1 month straight. Whether they wanted to or not. This couple said that it totally changed their sex life and while they no longer have sex everyday, they do have it about 3 times a week. I guess it rekindled a spark. They both felt better about themselves and felt wonderful about their partner. <br /><br />So, maybe take the 30 day sex challenge and see how it goes. You never know, it may lead to good things. If you find after the 30 days that you still aren't into it, then go see a dr.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018855677928916733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995015639539526957.post-71077334329141273272011-09-13T20:12:20.699-05:002011-09-13T20:12:20.699-05:00Silly as it might sound? I pray to thrill to the t...Silly as it might sound? I pray to thrill to the touch of my husband. To look for those things in him that got my engine going when I first met him. I told myself at one point after I had our first baby that I would never brush him off when he compliments me or kisses me, which I think we as women do ALL THE TIME. Dating helps. Nights out, kid free, doing the things that you two like to do together. Alcohol doesn't hurt. <br /><br />All that said, the only thing that is going to get the fire re-started is a real desire to want that for your marriage. I hope you can figure out a solution and rediscover all the things about your man that made you fall in love with him in the first place.Mazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16914742489846963185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995015639539526957.post-70732735432407075542011-09-13T15:18:56.613-05:002011-09-13T15:18:56.613-05:00I've been there. It's totally normal, alt...I've been there. It's totally normal, although I'm sure that doesn't help. Talking and trying to rationalize only take you so far with a spouse, I know.<br /><br />What helps? Sometimes, just making yourself do it, even though you don't want to. Oddly, sex often leads to more sex, just like avoiding it leads to more avoiding it. If you drink, have a few glasses of wine and make yourself. See how that goes for a while. Toys? Anything that will help you get your mojo back. Try not to stress about it. I know how hard it is. But the more you don't, the more you're going to argue, and it feels like this endless, awful cycle. I so totally get it.<br /><br />I suppose you could also talk to your doctor about whether there are med's that might help. I wasn't willing to go that route, but it's an option. <br /><br />Whatever you decide, good luck.Queenie. . .https://www.blogger.com/profile/00666609807461763029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995015639539526957.post-69589669414912831152011-09-13T14:10:45.559-05:002011-09-13T14:10:45.559-05:00You have just described MY sex life. Let me know i...You have just described MY sex life. Let me know if you figure something out. I am never in the mood, never feel sexy, never anything. And of course he is always ready. Ours started after we starters with the RE too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com